Agape Love

Was providing yet another exhortation package to someone and I just suddenly had this train of thought seemed to be pretty much coherent and sensible. so to all those poor souls out there who love to slap themselves for loving the wrong person or someone whom you cant love or one-sided love, here's my 2 cents worth.

Basically, we should have all heard of the term agape love which is unconditional love. God's loves us all unconditionally so much so that He paid such a high price to redeem us while we're still sinners. Whether or not you are convinced at least take that as an example of what agape love is all about. It's about loving someone with no expectation of any return of any sort and forms (physical/material/feelings etc.)

so let's ask ourselves what is true love? when we say that we truly love someone or someone truly love us, how confident are we to say that we are willing to even lay our lives down for that person? Since we love that someone so deeply and sincerely, shouldnt we be able to say with 100% confident that we are willing to even die for the person? Let's say you are willing to do so, what happens if one day you discover that the person had not been truthful to u or had done u wrong or is actually not the kind of person that you hoped for? Will you still be able to say that you are willing to die for the person? If it's true love, there shouldnt even be an expectation of any form for the person. If you sincerely love the person, then it will not matter what kind of a person that special someone is cos true love should be unconditional and if you are sincere, there should not be any reason as to why you like the person.

Love is unconditional. Love is of no reason and logic. so that's what 1st class love should be-agape love. It's not so much as to, the person is nice to you or the person likes u too therefore you like the person back. It's unconditional period.

Sounds like mission impossible? haha well I believe we should all strive towards that. Just as how God had showered us with His love, we too should learn how to shower others with this kind of love. So for all those people who are struggling with themselves. There is nothing much to struggle about if we were to take a different view of things.

Never blame yourself for loving the wrong person, because there is no such thing as loving the wrong person. Loving someone is never wrong. So please don't slap yourself for falling into this so-called 'trap' or 'self-delusion'. But instead, try to adjust your feelings a little and search a little deeper into your heart. think about this true love that i had just mentioned above. We should all try to 'upgrade' our 2nd class love a little to get closer to the 1st class love. If we can change our mindset to loving someone with no expectation of any returns, then there will no longer be a need for you to struggle with yourself or to try to curb your feelings. There's no wrong in loving someone, just bear in mind that true love means expecting no return of the same sort of feeling. If you truly love the person, then my fren, you will also realise that you had just released yourself from that self-inflicted pain.

okie.... enough had been said... thk i sound like some monk... some dharma....wah no... i am not talking about enlightenment here.... just my view and opinion of how to get out of that self inflicted pain n trap.