the self

having friends who are low around you allow one to think and reflect as well. and i come to a conclusion for the learning lesson this time round: it's just soooo important for one to spend time with oneself and to study and understand yourself.

Man are reflexive creatures. All our actions often take into consideration the opinions of others. Our confidence and self-esteem too is enmeshed in the opinions of others. In taking the short cut and morphing ourselves into the ideal image of a man or woman in the eyes of others, what have we done? We skipped the steps in between and missed out on the developing phase of our true character. What would we be in our purest form had we not taken the short cut to mould into the image of others?

In taking the short cut and making ourselves into this ideal image, the taste of success and acceptance from others build our confidence and self-esteem. But as setbacks strikes, as the others reject us, what will happen? This confidence and self-esteem which is built up upon the basis of these others crumbles as well because the foundation is hallow, because we have skipped that important step of self-building. We become lost with our own identities. Don't know who we are and who we wanna gonna be. There's nothing on which we're grounded on. Looking on to our friends, we still find no answer. Because we're our own sole worker in building that foundation of self-understanding.

In bad times, it's really good to have friends who will stand by you. But really, that's as far as friends can go. Cos no one else can be the builder of yourself. It's just God and you. Bear the pruning period and you'll emerge stronger and setbacks are the only way of building that foundation strong.

and to myself: Let's not envy, let's not compromise, let's not give in, let's not give up.