Guarding the tongue

' A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger... The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit' (Proverbs 15: 1,4)

'Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen' (Ephesians 4:29)

Follow up with Jaime was really enlightenning. I guess we really tend to underestimate the power of the words that we say. Our tone and choice of words can influence the way people will respond to our comment. so yeah, we should watch what we say and it will really help us to avoid calamities.

1) Smile more and speak politely and gently. Life can be so much better without all the harsh retaliation that will result from those harsh words that we said which were also meant to get back at the person we're not pleased. It's a vicious cyle.

2) A word of encouragement can make someone who have lost motivation find strength again in whatever things that he is doing. So dont put others down but instead try to shower them with more encouragement.

3)Don't use silence as a weapon too. Cold war to threaten others into giving in to u... it just meant that they treasure u but not necessarily because they see your point.

4)Talk lesser and instead listen more to what others have got to say. N as jaime highlighted... dont speak too little too especially for girls. it's much better for us to be clear with what we want and not leave it for people to guess, and get all frustrated at how dense people can get.

ok i'm really brain dead... off to bed.