Love and Self

Sound like one of my social psyc module chapters but oh well. All the talks with friends have got me back into my thinking mode.

Was in lecture today, when my friend nearly broke down. In him/her i see a battered soul. So battered, i could feel it and it hurts. Hurt so bad. Yes some of you guys actually thinks that i am a thking and unfeeling person. But it really depends on the situation. I would say that i actually feel feelings more acutely than others. And she/he is not the only one of late. Oh gosh, it's the season of emo if there is even such thing. And the cause of most emo-ness is? Love.

Everyone desire to be loved and to love someone. Who doesn't? But do we let our own identity and sense of worth get all mangled up in love?

And at the very first place, love shouldnt even be so myopic. When we fret over not being loved or having no one to love, how about those children out there in the world who do not even have a home, who do not know what's loneliness cos they have never felt otherwise, who are dying by the second without even knowing that they are loved.To die without knowing the greatest love of all. Can we have the bigger capacity to love them as well?

As a soci major, I am suppose to have a very open-minded worldview of things. But face it, I hold strong views on certain issues. And I don't agree there should be any compromise.

My friend, it really struck me when u said about not getting respect. I guess as girls especially, we have to earn that respect from guys. we're not to be treated as they wish. We ought to learn to love ourselves first before others can learn to love us the right way. We need to respect ourselves before others would respect us. Respect ourselves, and to hold on to our sense of worth. Our identity and sense of worth lies in us and not others. No one else can take that away from us.No one can trample on our hearts.

And for the part on guys, it brings to mind the session on Godly men and women. It's a God-given duty to men to love and protect the women. Eve was made from the side of Adam's ribs, to be his equal, to be beside him (not above him to dominate him or below him to b stepped by him) to be protected n loved by him. And to love and protect, encompasses honouring your women. Just as how Joseph had protected Mary's honour, it's wat a Godly men should do. Or rather all men should do. To honour and respect the women and don't put her in such vulnerable positions. This is chilvary.

Are we in love with someone or in love with love? why go through so much ordeal to try to 'rectify' oneself so as to win a someone to love and get love from? I think at the end of the day, we'll still all be disappointed bcos no other one can truly feel how u feel and understand you a 100%. in the end, it'll never be suffice. Only God can fill that void. So what is it that we're striving so hard to get? Afterall the greatest love is already given free.

And i guess, we don't have to be so harsh on ourselves as well. No one can love another person a 100%, only He can. So let's just love in the capacity given to us, for any more or less brings hurt.

Alright enough of my utopian views. You might think that i'm young that's why. Perhaps, it may be the taste of loneliness is still far off. But I guess, I prefer to say let's just have more faith. Daddy knows best and has arranged the best for us. Single or attached. You can be assured that you'll definitely be happy where u stand if u know your foundation is on Him